Supporting Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Through the Holiday Season

By Jennifer Sutherland / Rise Above Violence

​The holiday season, while typically associated with joy, family gatherings, and celebration, can be an incredibly difficult time for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. During this period, stress levels tend to rise, and for many individuals in abusive relationships, holidays can be a start to a dangerous situation. It is critical to be aware of the challenges survivors face during this time and take proactive steps to provide support.
Increased Risk During the Holidays
For survivors of domestic violence, the holidays can bring added financial strain, increased contact with abusers, and heightened isolation. While family gatherings are supposed to bring loved ones together, for those trapped in abusive relationships, these gatherings can lead to more control and manipulation. Abusers may restrict access to friends and family, leaving survivors feeling even more alone through the holidays.
Additionally, the stress of the holiday season can often fuel violent behavior. According to research, domestic violence can spike during times of heightened emotional and financial pressure, which makes the holidays a particularly dangerous time for those living with an abusive partner. Increased alcohol consumption during holiday celebrations can also lead to escalated violence, endangering victims.
The Impact on Survivors of Sexual Assault
The emotional toll on survivors of sexual assault during the holidays is equally significant. Survivors often deal with complex feelings of guilt, shame, and isolation. Family interactions or social gatherings may bring up memories of past trauma, particularly if an assault occurred within the family. The pressure to appear happy and engage in festivities can be overwhelming, especially when internally struggling with trauma.
For some survivors, the holiday season can also be a time of heightened anxiety due to encounters with perpetrators who may be family members or close acquaintances.
Ways to Support Survivors During the Holidays
Given the increased risk and emotional challenges during the holidays, it is vital for communities, friends, and families to extend support to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Here are some ways to help:

1. Check-In Regularly: Survivors often feel isolated during this time, afraid to speak up to family and friends, so regular check-ins via phone, video calls, or texts can be a lifeline. Offer a listening ear without judgment and let them know you're there for them.
2. Offer Practical Support: Financial strain is common during the holidays, especially for those trying to escape abusive situations. Help by providing transportation to counseling or support groups.
3. Encourage Self-Care and Boundaries: Remind survivors that it's okay to set boundaries during the holidays. Encourage them to avoid situations that may be triggering and to prioritize their own emotional well-being, even if that means stepping back from certain gatherings that might be overwhelming for them.
4. Be Aware of Warning Signs: Be vigilant about the warning signs of domestic violence. If someone withdraws from social activities, becomes anxious or fearful, or exhibits changes in behavior, these could be indicators of abuse. You can offer support and connect them with local resources, explaining help is a sign of strength and a step toward self-care.
5. Provide Resources for Help: Many survivors may not know where to turn for help, especially during the holiday season when services may seem less accessible because of poor road conditions. Ensure they have access to hotlines like Rise Above Violence (970) 264-9075 or local resources such as shelters and counseling services.
6. Support Organizations That Help Survivors: Donating to or volunteering with organizations that support survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault can make a significant impact. These organizations often face higher demand during the holidays and rely on community support to continue providing critical services. If you would like to volunteer at your local domestic violence and sexual assault organization, please reach out today. www.riseaboveviolence.org/volunteerapplication

Conclusion
The holidays can be a time of tremendous pressure and danger for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. It is essential that we, as individuals and communities, provide compassionate and practical support to those affected this holiday season. By offering resources, staying connected, and advocating for survivor safety, encouraging bystanders to act if they witness abuse or know someone who is struggling. We can help ensure that no one has to endure abuse in silence—during the holidays or any other time of the year.
Supporting survivors through this time is a critical part of building safer, healthier communities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or sexual assault, help is available through local shelters, and crisis lines. Reach out today to speak to an advocate 970-264-9075 24/7 hotline.